Wondering how to manage being a mom and an entrepreneur without feeling like you are failing in one area?
Being a mom and a business owner can be quite challenging, but there are a few things you can do to manage both roles.
As a single mom and mompreneur, it’s taken me a while to figure out how to manage running a business and spending enough time with my kids.
If you have been struggling to balance mom life with business life, here are some tips that are sure to help.
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HOW TO MAKE BEING A MOM AND BUSINESS OWNER FUN AND GUILT-FREE
1. START WITH A SOLID FOUNDATION
When I say start with a solid foundation, what I mean is, you should have a vision for your business and a strong reason for starting it.
Having a strong foundation means you have an end goal for your business. It means your business serves a clear purpose.
Whether it’s to provide for your family as the primary income earner (usually the case with single moms), or to supplement your family’s income.
I find that having a clear purpose makes it easier for you to focus on your business without feeling guilty when you are working. Because your business isn’t just another time-wasting or meaningless activity you engage in, but something that could improve your finances and change your lives for the better.
So if you don’t know why you are in business or what purpose your business serves, that’s where you need to start if you really want to enjoy being a mom and business owner.
It’s unhealthy when you are constantly filled with guilt for working on your business.
Having a solid foundation for your business is one way to get rid of guilt or the constant need to explain why you are working on your business.
2. GO ALL IN TO MAKE YOUR BUSINESS SUCCESSFUL
One of the reasons many mom entrepreneurs feel guilty is because they havenothing to show for all their hardwork, so they feel guilty because they are spending a alot of time on their business with little reward.
Before I continue, let me say that growing a business or becoming profitable isn’t going to happen overnight, so you have to be realistic about that.
You need to invest lots of time on your business if you’re going to succeed.
With that said, you want to see some sign of progress when you spend time on your business. You want to feel like you’re on the right track and doing something right.
It’s demotivating when you don’t see any sign of progress, that’s why I want you to go all in to make sure your business succeeds.
So what does going all in look like?
It means learning the skills you need to succeed. It means putting the right systems and processes in place so you can succeed.
Going all in may include getting the help you need when you need it, and a willingness to take risks and put yourself out there.
Being all in means you’re fully committed to the process.
These are the things that will help you to grow your business without feeling guilty about the time you spend on working on your business.
3. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
As a mom, I know all too well how easy it’s to put a lot of pressure on yourself.
Pressure to succeed. Pressure to look like you’ve got it all together. Pressure to act like a superwoman. The problem is that you’re not!
You are just someone who’s trying to do the best that she can for herself and family.
Being a mom and entrepreneur is hard enough without you beating yourself up, that’s why you need to have realistic expectations about what you can and can’t do.
Being a mom is hard enough, but when you throw in running a business, it’s a completely different ball game.
You must understand and accept you probably won’t be able to do all the things you used to do before you became a mompreneur. You’re not going to have as much time to spend with your kids or husband (especially when you are just starting out and don’t have any help).
Your home is probably not going to be as clean and organized as you’d like (as long as things aren’t a complete mess).
You probably won’t be able to cook all your meals from scratch or cook dinner every night, but guess what? That’s okay.
When you know your limitations, you can rid yourself of guilt and embrace the freedom of going after your dream and actually enjoying it.
So make sure you have realistic expectataions and don’t put yourself under unneccesary pressure.
4. YOU HAVE TO BE DISCIPLINED
Lack of siscipline has killed many dreams and businesses.
One of the reasons many mom entrepreneuts struggle with guilt and productivity is because they lack self-discipline
Here’s what I mean.
Let’s say you normally work on your business during the day so you can spend the evenings with your family. However, instead of working and being productive during those hours,you waste them on social media or some other activity that isn’t helping your business grow.
So when evening comes arrives, instead of spending time with your family, you make excuses and probably tell a lie or two to explain why you can’t spend time with them.
Don’t ask me how I know this. I just know!
Here’s the thing.
Your family probably knows that you’re just making excuses, and you know they know, that’s probably why you feel guilty.
So if you want to stop feeling guilty about running a business as a mom, you have to be disciplined.
If you want to stop neglecting your family, you’ve to be disciplined.
Which means working on your business when you’re supposed to. Not wasting time on frivolous activities with no reward.
Don’t get me wrong. I know there are times when you need to work extra hours on your business, and that’s fine. That’s not what I’m referring to.
What I am talking about are your day-to-day activities and how you spend your time.
Self-discipline is one of the most important habit to develop if you want to succeed in business and life,, so embrace it!
If you struggle in this area, you can work on it until you get better at it.
5. MAKE IT A FAMILY BUSINESS
Want to enjoy the best of both worldss? Make your business a family business.
Involve your kids in your business even though they may not really understand what’s going on. Kids feel special when you involve them and talk to them about your business.
If you have older kids, you can delegate a few tasks to the. You can always supervise them if it’s something they can’t do on their own.
My kids are totally invested in my business. They understand it’s important and they want it to succeed as much as I do, so they are happy to help mommy.
If you have been leaving your kids out of your business, you gotta change that!
It’s really more fun when your kids are involved and invested. Give them a reason and an opportunity to care about your business. And as a side benefit, you can stop feeling guilty about investing some of your time on your business.
6. BE ORGANIZED
There’s just no way I can manage being a mom and an entreprenuer without being organized.
Since disorganization affects your productivity, it’s really smart to have some organization system in place if you want to manage running a business and being a mom.
Being organized means you have some kind of schedule or routineyou follow in your business and family life. For example, a cleaning and laundry schedule,a schedule for grocery shopping, meal prep and appointments.
Also, being organized includes having a dedicated work space and having everything you need for work in one place.
Staying organized is really essential for your sanity and productivity.
If you don’t want to be constantly stressed, you have to be organized. If you want to achieve your business and family goals, becoming organized is the way to go.
An easy way to stay organized is to use calendars and planners to keep track of appointments, deadlines and other important dates. You may also need to-do lists to help you prioritize your activities so you can stay focused.
Don’t forget to minimize or eliminate clutter in your home and work area if you want to stay organized and happy.
The less stuff you have, the more time you have to spend with your kids and work on your business.
7. BE FLEXIBLE
When you are a mom and business owner, you need to be flexible to save your sanity.
Don’t think you have to follow a strict schedule every day because that isn’t realistic at all.
There are days when nothing is going to go according to plan. For example, kids get sick, school gets cancelled or a family member or friend may need you in an emergency.
It’s a good idea to anticipate and plan for these things because you know this is how life works and there’s not much you can do about it.
So build some flexibility into your life so you don’t get angry or stressed when things happen to spoil your plans.
8. LEARN TO SAY NO
The word no is one of the most important words in our vocabulary, but some people are afraid to use it because they don’t want to appear mean or selfish.
When you say no for a good reason, you’re not being mean or selfish. Saying no may be all the self care you need or get when you’re a busy mom or business owner.
Of course you want to help other people as much as you can but not if helping someone else is detrimental to you.
I feel like I need to qualify this.
I’m not saying you should help people only when it’s conveneient for you because that’s just wrong. There are times when you need to help whether it’s convenient or not.
What I am saying is, don’t be a people pleaser. Don’t keep saying yes to people or things without thinking of the cost to you and how it affects you and your family.
When you’re a mom and a mompreneur, your time is even more limited and precious. That’s why you must guard it and be mindful not to over commit yourself.
9. HOW TO MANAGE BEING A MOM AND BUSINESS OWNER? TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
As a mom entrepreneur, you’re your biggest asset so you need to take care of yourself.
If you want to run your business successfully, you need to nurture your health.
While it’s important to work hard on your business especially when you’re just starting out, be careful not to run yourself ragged.
Lots of business moms burn themselves out and give up on their business so watch out for that.
Somethings you can do to take care of yourself include:
- Have a hobby or an activity you enjoy even if it’s just reading or watching movies
- Spend some time doing the things you love (that includes time with your kids)
- Take scheduled breaks
- Eat healthy and exercise
- Take care of your appearance
- Have some other mom friends
- Do whatever makes you feel good and happy
Your health and happiness matters so make sure you have a plan for taking care of yourself.
You’ll struggle to manage your business and family life if you don’t take care of yourself.
Final thoughts on how to make being a mom and business owner fun, guilt-free and successful
Having your own business is pretty exciting but it requires a lot of work.
It’s possible to balance mom life and business life. You just need to be intentional and work on it.
How do you manage being a mom and an entrepreneur?